So my cousin’s good friend just had a baby. I told her life would be different for the two of them and would never be the same. She asked about what to do and how to visit so here are some Do’s and Don’ts that I thought of.
Upon visiting the new mom:
-touch the new mom’s belly. It has happened. It is weird. There is no baby inside it. Back off!
-say the baby only looks like dad. Note: Mother delivered the baby.
-ask if labour was painful. It was. And if your labour wasn’t, please do share tips.
-only bring a gift for baby, more mentioned later.
-ask new mom when she’s planning to have another kid for a while!
-stay for a long time. However, if you are a relative, then make sure to stay and to do some chores while you’re there.
-tell her or any other mom for that matter that she looks tired. Actually, don’t tell any female she looks tired.
-mention how great the mom looks. Plus points for saying “It looks like you never had a baby!”
-compliment the baby, even if baby is not having a cute moment!
-bring a non-mommy gift for the mother! The mother has just done a lot of work (it’s called labour for a reason), so pamper her! My favourite gifts I received were a mini compact lip gloss kit and Victoria’s Secret perfume. Gifts for the mommy will stand out from the myriad of baby gifts received. Enough said.
-bring homemade food. Mothers won’t have time for great meals. Mums will be eating a lot of store bought food and will definitely appreciate homemade food!
-again, leave early. Do not linger. The mother has most likely stayed up the whole night and cannot wait to get some sleep! She also can’t wait to get out of her clothes, that probably do not fit her right at the moment, and get back into her PJ’s!