1 in 4

I’m stitching, and it’s surprisingly soothing. The sharp needle sears the coarse denim producing simple yet somehow soothing results. Z is petite which means things need to be hemmed. My mother is the good hemmer, I’m the one that can do it, but it takes longer, and it not as even. It’s Red Ribbon Week at Z’s school tomorrow, and wearing jeans and not doing drugs is ‘jeanius,’ hence why I’m attempting to hem rather than pass on the task to my mother. Time is of essence.


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While making semi-even stitches and adding a touch of buttons, I halfheartedly turned on the TV and saw a documentary titled India: A Dangerous Place to Be and was struck by the difficulty in being female, the hardship in being born a girl, the ease in which one can be assaulted.

1 in 4 women are assaulted.

The fact saddens me.

Similarly, it was Infant Loss Awareness Day on October 15th, and 1 in 4 women miscarry or lose infants.

This fact saddens me too.

It’s scary when as a female, you have to be constantly aware of your safety. It’s scary if you’re one of those 4 women who miscarry and suffer silently, or if you are unable to get pregnant and want to have a child.

It’s scary that these facts apply to women.


I am lucky, blessed, and grateful to God to have 2 girls. When I think of these facts though, I am afraid for them, and hope that they will be blessed with good. I hope that we can be strong for whatever trials go our way, and to be there for those who suffer whether in silence or not.


A Beautiful Quote about Infant loss below:

The Prophet (PBUH) loved his son, Ibrahim, so much: “He held Ibrahim in his hands, and tears flowed from his eyes.He said, “The eyes send their tears and the heart is saddened, but we do not say anything except that which pleases our Lord. Indeed, O Ibrahim, we are bereaved by your departure from us.” Then he turned his face towards the mountain before his and said, “O mountain! If you were as sorrowful as I am, you would certainly crumble into pieces! But we say what God has ordered us.”

and a prayer, because that is all we have.


“My Lord! I am truly in need of whatever good that You bestow on me!’[ Quran 28:24]

1 Resource: Ibrahim’s Tree, a blog on miscarriage

2. Uplifting Quotes: Faces of Loss

3. His Name is Julaybib

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